My own conflicts escalate because of my unwillingness to talk to the other party. In the beginning of the conflict, I usually put my feelings on the table as to why I angry, if that does not solve the conflict, I am uaually unwilling to talk about it furthur. Someties out of stuborness, other times because I am intimidated. Usually, if causes so much stress in my life, it takes over. But if I am in control of the situation, it can sometimes be fun.